Relationship Types
A practical guide to where you stand — and what to call it.
Introduction / Purpose
People use different words for their relationships. This page explains the most common terms in plain English so you and your partner(s) can use the same language and set clear expectations. Every label here assumes consent, honesty, and respect for boundaries.
Casual Dating
Seeing each other socially without exclusivity or long-term commitment. Expectations vary — communicate clearly.
- Not exclusive by default.
- Define your boundaries early.
Exclusive Dating
You’re only dating each other, focusing on a deeper connection. Often a step before becoming “official.”
- One-to-one dating only.
- Talk about timelines & goals.
Official / Committed
You both call it a relationship. Typically monogamous unless you agree otherwise.
- Shared plans & identities.
- Discuss boundaries explicitly.
Monogamy
Romantic and sexual exclusivity with one partner. Most common default unless stated otherwise.
- Exclusivity is explicit.
- Address expectations early.
Open Relationship
Primary partnership allows sexual experiences with others by consent and agreed rules.
- Rules & safety plans matter.
- Ongoing check-ins required.
Polyamory
Consensual, ethical non-monogamy where people may have multiple romantic relationships.
- Informed consent for all.
- Transparency & time-management.
Where Do These Labels Fit?
| Label | What it usually means | Typical Questions to Clarify |
|---|---|---|
| Friends with Benefits | Friendship with sexual intimacy, no couple identity or long-term expectations. | Are we seeing others? What happens if feelings change? |
| Casual Dating | Going on dates, getting to know each other; not exclusive by default. | How often do we meet? Are we sexually exclusive? |
| Exclusive Dating | Only dating each other; often a step toward “official.” | When do we reassess? What are our goals? |
| Official / Committed | “Partner,” “girlfriend/boyfriend,” “significant other.” Often public and future-oriented. | Monogamous? How do we handle conflicts, finances, families? |
| Monogamous Relationship | Exclusive romantic & sexual partnership with one person. | How do we maintain trust and intimacy long-term? |
| Open Relationship | Primary partnership + consensual sexual experiences with others. | What are our rules? Safer-sex plan? Disclosure boundaries? |
| Polyamory | Multiple romantic relationships by consent (may or may not include a “primary”). | Time/energy limits? Hierarchy or no hierarchy? Communication cadence? |
Five Questions to Align On
- Are we exclusive right now? If not, do we want to be?
- What does intimacy mean for us (emotional, physical, digital)?
- How will we talk about changes (feelings, needs, boundaries)?
- What are our expectations around time, holidays, and family?
- What safety practices and STI testing schedule do we agree on?
FAQs
Is “exclusive dating” the same as being “official”?
No. Exclusive dating means you’re only dating each other; “official” means you both call it a relationship and usually treat it as long-term.
Can non-monogamous relationships be satisfying?
Yes — satisfaction depends on consent, communication, and fit, not just the structure. Choose the model that works for you.
Do we even need a label?
Labels are optional, but clear agreements are essential. If you’re unsure, write down what you each expect and review it together.
Last updated: November 19, 2025